Pride

Pride, that inflated emotion that numerous friendships, romantic relationships and professional business opportunities have been destroyed by.

What seems to be such a simple word can be incredibly destructive if not handled with delicate care. Many people, myself included have gone months, even years carrying this burden. Whether it was love lost, lack of communication or an “I’m sorry” that was never said, we spend so much time wasted on our frivolous pride. 

It’s been quite a year for me. I had two New Years Resolutions, one that being to overcome pride. Not only is this unbelievably difficult but also extremely time consuming. You fight your roller coaster of emotions; you go back and forth of “not caring”. You delete, block and/or flat out ignore those that you feel betrayed you. 

As night falls, you start to reevaluate the situation you found yourself in. You begin with what my best friend calls to, “Sit in your feelings.”  

And for however long it takes you to finally make the executive decision to move past this, you continue to waste time.

Even if the friendship will never be the same or the love will not ever be rekindled. I find myself realizing that it’s worth setting things straight. This doesn’t make you weak. You may not ever forgive that person, but what matters most is that you allow yourself the freedom of that burden that burns so deeply inside of you. 

We all may think, “It’s too late.” 

But it’s not; it’s never too late. The only time it’s too late is when you allow the time to pass and something drastic happens to you or that other person. Then, instead of pride you carry the unbearable feeling called regret. 

I’ve noticed more cases this year than any other, and it’s heartbreaking. In the end, all we’re doing is wasting precious time, time that will not ever be given back. That beloved entity we all take for granted.  

So, mend your soul. Make the call, answer the message, and apologize if necessary. 

Not for them, for you.